Different Equal

She grabbed the rope that was leaning against the first platform and swung to the other side. The rope looked to be attached to a pole, anchored in the middle of a water pool with a track like maneuver overhead.  The goal was to glide the top of the pole through the maze contraption. With precision and certainty, this feat was accomplished with ease.  Then, with confidence, she leaped off a trampoline to grab the underside of a slightly hanging cargo net.  Arm FlexThe crowd was going wild; chanting her name – screaming words of encouragement.  With controlled upper body strength, she was sure to not touch the water waiting below.  Reaching the top mat, landing on both feet, she defeated the obstacle course.  Ignited by the hype of the achievement, she balled her hands in tight fists, lifted both arms in a “L” shape and flexed her arm muscles.  Immediately the announcer says …… “What an accomplishment! She has shown everyone what she is made of; girls everywhere are standing to their feet!”

What? (As the needle quickly scratches over the vinyl record – in my head)

What did he just say?

The initial purpose of The Women’s Liberation movement was to free women from tyranny in a culture that viewed women as “less”.  A movement with a purpose that would raise consciousness of her intelligence, make aware her astuteness and openly note her overall value.  It was the culture that was blind to the value of the role of the woman, but God was definite when he created her as he did.  So God, not man, created what man needed – a woman.  There was no thought of subservience or maid service.  Yet, with absolute mindfulness that it was not good for man to be alone.  <Gen. 2:18>

Man and woman, created with their own purposes; different responsibilities – equal in value.

Thought to Ponder

Somewhere it has been noted that the evidence of what makes men and women different is to be hidden within society.  That women are to be uncomfortable in the things that hold true to her natural design and should rightfully aim to exceed the man.  It is the beauty of a woman in her entirety that is a complement to any realm.  Her attributes to nurture, encourage, cultivate, raise, support, teach, inspire, develop and promote is the glue to every social order.

Woman, as she walks in her planned blueprint, flexing her muscles under God’s pleased eyes, can bask in the praise of her accomplishments. <Prov. 31:30>  And to that – girls everywhere can stand to their feet.

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One to Another

The planning was over, every seat was accounted for and the event was a success.  white dressSixteen ladies, all dressed in white, gave their time – talent and – treasures without hesitation.  Totally willing to graciously share in the idea that healthy marriages and positive relationships are worth the extra effort they so desperately require.

These ladies know, firsthand, that being created as a valuable addition to the many relationships you will encounter in your lifetime is no slow stroll in the park.  On the contrary, if you are not attentive and intentional you could very well find yourself, years from now, still slow strolling; not adding any value to anyone.  But yet, here they were, God-enlisted “encouragers of doing good”; each one of them holding true to the focus point of the event: “One to Another”.

One to another was our focus, but “Why Do We Give?” was the apparent question.  Actually, underneath the obvious was the hidden thought of, “Why do we give …..  so much?”  Why is it that we do what we do?  Why do we give the time we claim we never have enough of, though it can always be found when the voice on the line sounds exasperated, unsure and in need of hope.  When she is in need of an ear, we listen.  When she needs our opinion, we lovingly share what would be best – opposed to what may feel best.  Why do we give that talent we are adamant about not yet mastering.  GIve backThat one thing we know we may not be the best at doing, somehow seems possible when the outcome is for the greater good.  That inexact ability ultimately loses its fear-provoking grip when there is a gap to be filled and she subtly ask for your help.  And why do we give, when all else fails; without overthinking its tangible value, what it will take to be replaced, how long it took to accumulate or if it will ever be given back – a portion of our treasure.  It all comes without question: if she needs it, it is hers for the taking.

Neither our time, talent, nor our treasures have preset limits when our hearts aim to encourage, build-up and support.

Thought to Ponder:  Each one of us has an active role in helping another woman reach her goal of being more than she could otherwise be when left at her own devices.  We were not intended to jog, walk or run the life race alone.  It is through the blessed gift of humility that one is inclined to ask for help when it is needed.  It is also through the blessed gift of humility that one is inclined to give help when it is needed.  In His abundant love for us, God did not leave us wondering about the part we play in the lives of those around us.Hammer-and-nails

  • “…Instruct one another.” (Romans 15:14)
  • “Teach…[one another]” (Colossians 3:16)
  • “…Admonish one another (Colossians 3:16)
  • “…Encourage each other…”(I Thessalonians 4:18)
  • “…Build each other up…” (I Thessalonians 5:11)
  • “…Spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” (Hebrews 10:24)

With the aid of others, you and I are more capable of accomplishing all that God has intended. So why do we give? … Because we are better together.

With you – I am better than I otherwise would be.

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Who is She?

Queen you say?  Yes, I know her.  She is a stand out.  I see her going about, with her unspoken beauty.  That quiet woman, with the hidden strength of a warrior and stamina that never perishes.  She, who has the wisdom to rule a nation and the forbearance to withstand a drought.  She, who has the gift to nourish those around her and the nerve to fight for that which is most important: her house, her kingdom, her people, her integrity, and her king.  There she is, standing in her queen attire that stylishly complements her value – and displays her uncompromising worth.  Her, the Queen – who has the obvious courage to trust, love and wait.  She, the one whose deeper beauty is revealed by her kind words, her uplifting thoughts and willingness to listen.  She, the one who was created to excel in a role filled with intentional purpose: a purpose that enriches those around her, gives importance to order, and arouses others to be better – to be more – to be radiant – to be strong – to be resilient.

Oh’ no, she is not weak, feeble or fragile.  She is not a slave to man, nor is she maid service.  She is not subservient in significance, oppressed by the culture, nor negated by nay-sayers.  She is not cheap, nor is she destitute.

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She is the one whose influence can change a mind, alter a plan, transform a home, revise a decision, save a marriage, refresh a heart, restore a relationship, and turn the world upside down.  < Genesis 3:6>   She, as the Lord intended – is naturally gifted to make a difference.

Who is she, really?

She is giver, she is nurturer, she is helper, she is queen, and she is Wife.

Firm Decision to Do Something

I’ve never been a big celebrator of the New Year.  Not in the traditional sense anyway. The party before midnight was never one that held my attention.  Forcing myself to stay alert, pleasantly socializing without yawning and trying my best not to turn into “Grumpy” was typically my main party focus.  Yet, without delay, by ten o’clock p.m., I would begin to hear the words of the illusionists whispering in my ear, “You’re getting sleeeeeepy”.  All- nighters have never been my strong suite.  But no matter how the year ends, the very next morning is the beginning of anew.  Resolution resolve…..

When I originally began “TimeOut” I can honestly say my focus was not centered on how I could be of help.  Every month I would attend the gatherings with my two closest friends, hoping that by some stretch of the imagination, me getting time away would invigorate me to become more of what God was looking for in a woman, a helper, a wife.  I was sure having time away from the mundane would help me keep myself on track, regroup when necessary, and regain focus if needed.  We have all heard it said time and time again, that every couple needs time apart, right?  Believing that taking a life pause is a welcomed additive to any routine, a short breather is just what every couple needs in order for there to be a healthy balance.  This concept is true in theory.  But, what I soon discovered was; getting time away is nice.  But, by no means does getting away to relax on the beach help me to become a better swimmer.  To become a better swimmer, I need to use my time at the beach, building the skills it would take to enhance my swimming.

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Just the same, if I am to become a true woman after God’s own heart, a committed companion to my king who pursued me, a sweet help to the man who holds the responsibility to lead, a wife who “does her husband good and not evil all the days of her life” < Proverbs 31:12>,   I will need to use my time away from my husband as a refresher in building the skills that will enhance my marriage.

Thought to Ponder

As we begin this year with intentional time away, let us firmly embrace the resolution to discover and live out God’s plan for us as Wife.

Next Wives Gathering – January 29, 2016. See you there!! ~ CharMaine

 

The Wrong Person…

“I have no way of knowing whether or not (you) married the wrong person, but I do know that many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make that marriage happy and successful. I’ll be the first to admit that it is possible that you did marry the wrong person. However, if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after all. On the other hand, if you married the right person, and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person. I also know that it is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right person. In short, whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you.” ~ Zig Ziglar, Courtship After Marriage

Thought to ponder

Did your husband marry the right person?

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Ministry Misconstrued

The weather had finally changed.  It was now cool enough outside to justify having a tall Pumpkin Spice mocha with whipped cream and cinnamon sprinkles – extra hot.  Each lady entered the coffee shop, placed her order, and then eagerly took a seat.  Cups in hand, greetings and hugs, we all gathered in our usual circle.  But this time, we were without our usual agenda.  Tonight, there would be no diagram at all.  No forethought, no preparation, no planning, just impromptu discussion.  This is our Table Talk.  Anything put on the ‘table’ is open to be talked about.

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After hearing all the challenges each wife had with the prior months Wives Challenge, we quickly learned that the idea of “ministry” has been slightly misconstrued and somewhat commercialized. For years, ministry has been advertised with slogans, building signs, billboards, websites, and events. There is an excess of posters on the side of buses, stickers on cars, and t-shirts with catchy sayings. We recognize ministry when there are water wells to be dug, shoe boxes to be filled or can goods to be collected. Ministry typically looks familiar when feeding the homeless, visiting the hospital, or helping orphans in a poverty-stricken country. Expectantly, ministry is most easily detected within the church – when teaching a class, singing in the choir, leading praise or preaching from the pulpit.

Sadly, ministry has been tagged with its own invisible measures. The word ministry derived from the word minister. And although ministry has been synonymous with prestige and pious customs, it can – just as easily – be ignored when in its humblest form. Minister is defined as: (a) to give service, care, or aid; attend, as to wants or necessities: (b) to contribute, as to comfort or happiness. Simply put, ministry is from a Greek word meaning ‘to serve’.

 As shared during Table Talk; with lightheartedness and sure conviction, we can all smile inwardly as we grasp our many areas of wife “ministry’.

  • The Shoe Ministry – occurs every time you stumble over your husbands shoes in the middle of the floor and you pick them up to place them back into the closet.
  • The Cooking Ministry – when he (and the kids) is hungry, yet all the food in the freezer is frozen.
  • The Toothpaste Ministry – as you wipe the blobs of paste out of the sink and search the counter for the cap.Toothpaste
  • The Administrator Ministry – when he calls and ask you to do that one thing he could have done before he left the house.
  • The Pantry & Drawer Door Ministry – that you close (again) from the last time your husband retrieved something from it.
  • The Paper Stack Ministry – that you sort and place in the file folders after removing the ten piles your husband left on the dining room table.
  • The Bath Towel Ministry – which you pick-up off the floor as you make your way to the vanity.
  • The Planner Ministry – when you carefully add the month’s events to the family wall calendar and your husband calls you to ask what is the plan is for the day.
  • The Sub Ministry – when your husband was sure he could do it, now you need to do it for him.
  • The Shopping Ministry – when you have to make a special trip to the store for fruit, ‘cause your husband bought two boxes of banana flavored Twinkies.

Thought to ponder:

As a wife, we have been given our own special ministry, with our own special audience. Embrace it.  “Take heed to the ministry which you have received in the Lord, that you may fulfill it.”

< Colossians 4:17>